10 Things for Improving your Child's Success

November 28, 2013

1. Give directions verbally and visually. Say it, and write it down.

2. Break the task down into parts. If your child must write spelling words in sentences, fold the paper. Show him one word at a time.

3. Cut down the expectations. Do not expect the child to do 40 multiplication problems. Tell her she can stop at 10 if she does them correctly.

4.Do not engage with verbal battle with the child. Establish consequences and use them. If you ask your child to hang up his coat and he refuses, do not gt into a shouting match. Simply say, "If you do not pick up your coat, I will hang it up myself. However, that will cost you." Later, when your anger has died down, present him with the consequences of the action.

5. When the child becomes irrational, mean-spirited, and out of control, resist the urge to respond with sarcasm or cruelty. Don't attempt to respond to statements like, "I hate you. You're mean." Simply listen through the inflated statements to discover the source of the child's annoyance. Then let the child know that she must remove herself from the area until she has regained rationality. You cannot have a discussion with someone who has gone over the edge.

6. Find ways to help your child organize his work. Write his assignments down on a piece of colored paper, and clip the sheet to the front of his notebook. Change the color each week to draw attention to the new assignments. In the back of the binder, keep a plastic pouch with all needed materials -- pens, pencils, sharpener, glue, etc.

7. Request an extra set of textbooks to keep at home.

8. Always "walk through" a scenario, and brainstorm ways of behaving properly after a child has misbehaved. Why did I have to send you up to your room? Do you remember what happened? What could you have done differently?

9. Use color to draw attention to tasks. Research has shown that colors can help children learn to spell (highlight difficult letters) and form letters (highlight difficult parts of stroke formation).

10. Use music to teach rote tasks. (See reed products sax). Children with ADD do best when they can learn their times table to music.


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